Male Counselling Melbourne Psychologist and Psychotherapist
Looking for Male Counselling in Melbourne? It can be hard to find a male psychologist and counselling.
The Importance of Male Counselling Melbourne Therapists
“Boys don’t cry” has been the mantra drilling into young men’s heads for decades. They are taught to be tough, stoic, unemotional. Modern concepts of masculinity often frame expressions of emotion or acknowledging hardships as “weaknesses” to be avoided.
It comes as no surprise, then, when we hear that men rarely seek therapy for their issues. More upsetting — and yet no less surprising — is that men are over-represented in suicide statistics almost across the world.
Outside of societal pressure to ignore and minimise feelings, there is another possible factor in play that may explain why men don’t get therapy. Where men are over-represented in suicide statistics, they are under-represented in the therapy and counselling profession.
Simply put — sometimes, men went to talk to another man about their issue, but finding either a local male psychologist Melbourne counsellor to talk to can, be hard.
So, if you’re seeking an online male therapist, or prefer face to face if you’re in Melbourne, I am here to help.
Why Male Psychologist Counselling Melbourne Makes a Difference
Just because more women seek therapy, does not mean men suffer less psychological or emotional problems!
Above I mentioned that male suicide rates are higher than women. Specifically, it’s about 4 times higher — and yet the diagnosis of depression and other mental health problems typically associated with suicide is significantly lower in men.
Quite the contrary, men are just as likely to suffer depression, anxiety, lack of self-esteem, and other mood disorders as women. They’re just not encouraged to seek help about it.
Common reasons you might be looking for men’s counselling in Melbourne include:
- Relationship issues, be they with your romantic partner, family, or just interacting with others in general.
- Anger and mood management issues.
- Impulse control issues.
- Concerns over sexual function, such as loss of libido and erectile dysfunction.
- Concerns over sexuality, coming to terms with the possibility one might be gay, bisexual, etc.
- Infidelity or porn addiction
- “Mid-life crisis” issues — problem with motivation, existential angst
- Substance and alcohol abuse.
- Loss of access to children following a custody dispute.
- Post-traumatic stress, such as from childhood trauma, military service, etc.
Not seeking treatment for these issues can create harmful behavioural patterns — one in five men will develop an alcohol dependency in their lifetime.
What’s different about a Male Counselling Psychologist and Therapist?
In terms of qualifications and quality of care, there is really no difference between a male or female therapist.
But effective therapy relies a great deal on the relationship between you and your therapist. Your ability to feel comfortable, safe, and secure around your therapist is crucial to treatment succeeding or not.
Simply put, sometimes men simply feel more comfortable speaking to a male psychologist or male counsellor / therapist. There’s a familiarity.
This can particularly be the case where issues pertaining to sex and sexuality — many men can feel uncomfortable talking to a woman about their sexual experiences or thoughts with or about women, but are OK telling a man.
This is not, obviously, the case for every man. But it does happen a lot.
It also doesn’t need to be anything quite so dramatic. Almost all men are told at some point to suppress their emotions. Opening up to someone who truly understands just how difficult it can be, is a level of support and empathy men sometimes greatly need.
What the Statistics Say
Statistically, men tend to seek therapy less often than women. However, this does not mean that men do not suffer from mental health issues that counselling would be able to help with. Men’s suicide rates are up to four times higher than women’s suicide rates, despite research finding diagnosed depression rates being lower in men than in women. About 1 in 5 men develop alcohol dependency in their lifetime. Over six million men suffer from depression, despite it often being undiagnosed.
Despite these statistics proving that men suffer from mental illness just like women, men are less likely to seek help through therapy for their mental health issues. This is often due to the pressures that are placed on men in society. Oftentimes, men are raised to be tough and keep to themselves about anything they may be suffering with. There is a stigma that has been placed, by society, on men’s mental health. The stigma around men’s mental, however, is slowly dissipating. As people begin talking more about the benefits of therapy, men’s mental health is becoming less and less stigmatised in our societies.
How I Can Help You?
I offer an holistic approach to therapy to tailor your treatment to your specific needs. My practice is a safe, comfortable location, free of judgment but full of understanding, patience, and acceptance.
I’m here to listen to what you have to say, how you feel, and what you think. Together, we will work on a process to help you address and overcome your personal challenges.
It’s never a particularly easy journey. Often to achieve the desired results we must take ourselves to our darkest places and confront our deepest fears. But there is certainly light at the other end, and it’s my purpose to guide you to it safely and securely.
Male Counselling in Melbourne
I’m available 6 days a week, with a schedule that is flexible to your needs. After work, on a weekend — I am sure we can arrange a time that gets you the therapy you need, at a time convenient for you.
Can’t make it to my practice? Feel more comfortable at home? Online counselling Telehealth sessions are available so you can have therapy from wherever you want.
We simply talk online with a video call, saving you the hassle of leaving the house and letting you be wherever is most comforting to you.
If you have a busy schedule, or you’re abroad, you might prefer to speak to an online male psychologist or a male counsellor.
Don’t suffer in silence. Reach out today, and I’d be honoured to help you on your journey to healing.