Do you struggle with controlling your anger?

Well, you don’t have to. 

I can help you understand your anger and show you ways to keep it under control. I can guide you through the process of achieving a life free of anger your relationships with others, and yourself,  improving your self-esteem, and most importantly – to give you control over your life.

Don’t let anger destroy your life

I offer tailor made anger management courses as well as counselling.

Have you ever noticed yourself getting incredibly worked up over things that later seemed to be completely unimportant?

When it happens, it feels like you can’t stop it.

You feel an intense anger and you feel this anger is completely justified and perfectly proportionate to the issue upsetting you.

Maybe sometimes you feel the anger, but don’t necessarily act on it.

Or you make a mean comment, a rude gesture, raise your voice, shout, scream abuse … or possibly even lash out.

Either way – any attempts to calm you down only makes it worse.

Is my anger an issue?

Getting angry is a normal human emotion, however some people experience what is known as low frustration tolerance (LFT). LFT can make seemingly benign annoyances lead to full blown aggressive rage. The effect this can have on relationships can be catastrophic and cause them to breakdown.

It can cause others to be fearful of you, or the anger can be turned inwards with destructive results. Together we’ll learn strategies to work through emotional triggers and help fundamentally shift your behavioural responses.

 Have you ever noticed yourself getting incredibly worked up over things that later seemed to be completely unimportant?

When it happens, you can’t stop it. You feel an intense anger you feel is completely justified, perfectly proportionate to the issue upsetting you. Attempts to calm you down make it worse.

Maybe sometimes you feel the anger, but don’t necessarily act on it. Or you make a mean comment, a rude gesture, raise your voice, shout, scream abuse … or possibly even lash out.

While it’s natural to lose our temper on occasion, if this becomes chronic or affects your daily life, it’s a serious issue.

Luckily, anger management therapy can help.

 

Do I have an anger issue?

While it’s normal that everyone get’s angry, a low frustration tolerance (LFT), can make seemingly benign annoyances, lead to full blown out aggressive rage. The effects on relationships to breakdown can be catastrophic, it can cause others to be fearful of you, or the inverse, where one turns the anger inwards.

Intensive Anger management courses & Classes in Melbourne

Almost a third of people polled, report that they have a close friend who has anger bursts of anger. Twenty percent of people have ended relationships due to anger management issues.

There are many ways to address anger with therapy.

The path that is right for you will depend on your situation; the reasons for your anger; how you express your anger; your long-term goals.

Because of this I don’t believe there is a single approach that can be applied to everyone.

 How I help people treat their anger must be specific to their needs.

 That’s why I take a holistic approach which combines multiple therapy treatments, to find the right solution to the right problem

I offer a tailor-made one on one anger management course. The course helps identify underlying triggers. Moreover, we also investigate a somatic psychotherapeutic model to help uncover deeper unresolved anger issues. The courses are intensive, and range from 8-12 weeks. 

In completing the course you will:

– uncover triggers that create the anger

• Uncover the triggers that create the anger
• Increase the awareness of when anger arises
• Develop the skills in pProcessing the anger when it arises
• Resolve deeper underlying anger issues that have not been dealt with
• Renegotiate the somatic neuroception to find safety with others to help avoid anger
• Adopting healthier new behaviours
• Understanding the difference between passive, assertive, and aggressive communication styles.

Together we’ll learn strategies in working through emotional triggers, to help fundamentally shift behavioural responses.

 

 

 

5 Key Facts About Anger

There are a lot of misconceptions about anger, so I feel it is important to be clear about what anger is, what it isn’t, and where it comes from.

I feel it is important to be clear about what anger is, what it isn’t, and where it comes from

FACT 1 – Anger is a valid emotion. It is common to see anger as a negative, undesirable, almost unhealthy emotion. Any show of anger is bad, right? Not so. Like any other emotion, it is a valid response to certain circumstances, and perfectly healthy in most cases.

FACT TWO – Anger can sometimes be a secondary emotion. We usually get angry because of another This is where therapy is useful in treating anger — it helps to find and address the underlying causes, such as humiliation, frustration, guilt, fear, sadness, loss of control, or rejection.

FACT THREE: Anger comes from without and within, Internal and external events have an impact on our thoughts, body and behaviour

FACT FOUR: Angry behaviour is learned behaviour. As we grow up, we learn how to express anger by watching others, typically our parents. This is why anger management issues can often “run in the family”, so to speak.

FACT FIVE: Anger doesn’t need to be expressed through aggression. Meditation, exercise, and structured breathing can all be ways to express or respond to anger. As above, we only think that anger leads to aggression or violence because that’s how we learn to express it.

Behavioural or lifestyle signs that an anger management counselling course might be needed

Behavioural or lifestyle signs your anger is problematic include:

• Frequent outbursts or yelling
• Being triggered or “set off” by things easily
• Rage
• Feeling out of control
• Feeling as if you need to suppress your anger
• Hostility towards others
• Breaking or throwing things, or engaging in other destructive behaviour
• Picking fights with others
• Passive aggressiveness
• Feeling impulsive
• Violence or legal trouble

Types of Anger

Anger manifests in many ways. Fernandez (2008), identified six dimensions of what he termed as anger “anger expression”. These are:

1. Direction of anger (internal vs external)
2. Reactionary anger (retaliatory vs resistant)
3. The type of anger (physical vs verbal)
4. The impulsivity of anger (controlled vs uncontrolled)
5. Motive of anger (restorative vs punitive)

These can all result in a myriad of problems, such as aggressive verbal and physical behaviours, stonewalling and ignoring in order to punish, turned inward in a repressed manner, sarcasm, and controlling behaviours.

How Anger Treatment in Melbourne Can Help

My name is Ronnie Adamowicz, and I would be honoured to be your anger management therapist in Melbourne.

There are many ways to address anger with therapy. The path that is right for you, will depend on your situation; the reasons for your anger, how you express your anger, and your longterm goals.

Because of this, I don’t believe there is a single good approach. How I help people treat their anger must be specific to their needs. That’s why I take an holistic approach which combines multiple therapy treatments, to find the right solution to the right proble

Some of the different types of therapies I incorporate into my practice are: somatic therapy, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), existential therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), and psychodynamic therapy.

Anger counselling in Melbourne can employ a range of specific techniques you can use and develop for lasting results.

Relaxation strategies such as breathing exercises: Some strategies used in anger counselling involve guided visualisation techniques and progressive muscle relaxation. These strategies make use of the mind-body connection to foster healing at a deep level.

Homework assignments: Homework assignments used in anger counselling may involve journaling to help you to get in touch with the triggers for your anger, and to track incidents of anger episodes. Journaling may also help you reinforce various new anger management skills you learned in therapy.

Meditation for anger: Meditation has known benefits for managing anger, such as lowering blood pressure. According to the journal Consciousness and Cognition, one research study suggested that just a single session of meditation can reduce the body’s anger response.

Whatever the therapies or tools used, the goals are the same:

1. To learn and recognise the signs that anger is developing
2. Gain the ability to manage factors that contribute to feeling angry
3. Slow your response to the feelings of anger
4. Acquire skillsets to use when anger arises within you
5. Find ways to calm down during arguments
6. Learn how to express yourself in a calmer manner

Results of successful anger management therapy:

• Communicating your needs in healthier ways
• Maintaining better health (for example, avoiding headaches, high blood pressure that can occur from anger)
• Helping you avoid substance abuse
• Improving your relationships
• Experiencing less anxiety and stress

Convenient Online Anger Management Course & Counselling in Melbourne

If you feel that your anger is an everyday or near everyday occurrence, do not be afraid to talk to a counsellor about it. With talk therapy, you will learn strategies that will free you from your anger so it no longer affects your life and relationships.

Don’t let anger destroy your life. Let me help guide you through the process of achieving a life free of low frustration tolerance; to restore your relationships, your self-esteem, and give you control over your life.

I am am available 6 days a week, with highly flexible hours. I offer Telehealth online counselling sessions, so you can talk to me right from the comfort of your own home. Or if you’d prefer a face to face  anger management Melbourne course, I’m also happy to provide that.

Any time, anywhere — you can get the therapy you need, to live the life you deserve.

Contact me today, and let’s begin.